The question is this: If God is love, why can’t we live our lives the way we want?
The first reason is here:
Revelation 4:11 King James Version (KJV)
11 Thou art worthy, O Lord, to receive glory and honour and power: for thou hast created all things, and for thy pleasure they are and were created.
We were made for God’s pleasure and not our own. When God created us for his purpose he designed us with specific reasons in mind. If we don’t find out from God what our purpose is, we feel empty inside. And the things of the world cannot fill the void of God’s purpose:
Ecclesiastes 1:8 King James Version (KJV)
8 All things are full of labour; man cannot utter it: the eye is not satisfied with seeing, nor the ear filled with hearing.
Whatever we do, it is meaningless because everything passes away:
Ecclesiastes 1:11 King James Version (KJV)
11 There is no remembrance of former things; neither shall there be any remembrance of things that are to come with those that shall come after.
The second reason is that living for ourselves causes sin to occur even though we may believe we are not hurting anyone. How? Because without God, all acts become naturally self-seeking and wisdom is corrupted:
Proverbs 18:1 King James Version (KJV)
Through desire a man, having separated himself, seeketh [and] intermeddleth with all wisdom.
And, our hearts loved darkness rather than light:
John 3:19 King James Version (KJV)
19 And this is the condemnation, that light is come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil.
The truth is this: We love ourselves, more than we love God and others. We do nice things for people but ultimately we love ourselves more. Even when we do good, we do it to feel good about ourselves. Our thoughts are therefore filled with self. The test is this: when it is inconvenient for us to be nice to others, do we forget or discard people? This is why it is written: There is none that is good, but God.
Romans 3:10 King James Version (KJV)
10 As it is written, There is none righteous, no, not one:
The third reason is that the consequences of living life without God’s law results in lawlessness. Every child needs discipline and all of us are God’s children:
Proverbs 13:24 King James Version (KJV)
24 He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.
And God disciplines us because he loves us:
Hebrews 12:6 King James Version (KJV)
6 For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth.
Without discipline and God’s law, children become disobedient and lawless. Similarly our own hearts grow cold when the word of God gets choked:
Mark 4:19 King James Version (KJV)
19 And the cares of this world, and the deceitfulness of riches, and the lusts of other things entering in, choke the word, and it becometh unfruitful.
And soon God turns us over to a reprobate mind:
Romans 1:28-32 King James Version (KJV)
28 And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient;
29 Being filled with all unrighteousness, fornication, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness; full of envy, murder, debate, deceit, malignity; whisperers,
30 Backbiters, haters of God, despiteful, proud, boasters, inventors of evil things, disobedient to parents,
31 Without understanding, covenantbreakers, without natural affection, implacable, unmerciful:
32 Who knowing the judgment of God, that they which commit such things are worthy of death, not only do the same, but have pleasure in them that do them.
Eventually our minds become so reprobate that we end up hating God and we love people who also hate God. What is the point of hating God? He only ever wants us to be fulfilled, happy and to have eternal life. It makes no sense to hate God.
We only hate God because we are doing things that God does not want us to do. Unfortunately, the things of the world we love doing are the very things that are destroying us and our families: porn, alcohol, drugs, pride, anger, lying, back-biting, coveting, love of money, love of self etc…
God provides guidance to us so that we are able to experience love, joy, peace, hope, gentleness, patience and kindness. Did anyone ever meet a loving (non-selfish) crack addict? A joyous alcoholic? A truthful rebellious child? A kind pornographer? A peaceful pimp? or A gentle gangster? These things are mutually exclusive to each other.
Lastly, a just and righteous God must ask for an accounting from everyone concerning their words and actions on this earth. People misunderstand and think that they will be judged and condemned by God. Actually, God says that we will be condemned by our own words:
Matthew 12:36-37 King James Version (KJV)
36 But I say unto you, That every idle word that men shall speak, they shall give account thereof in the day of judgment.
37 For by thy words thou shalt be justified, and by thy words thou shalt be condemned.
If you’re worried about anything you have said or done in the past then this is how to avoid being condemned: Read up about true repentance, the new covenant of Jesus Christ and walk after the Spirit of God.
James 3:6 King James Version (KJV)
6 And the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity: so is the tongue among our members, that it defileth the whole body, and setteth on fire the course of nature; and it is set on fire of hell.
It is our tongues that send us to hell, not God.